Passions run High at the County Register

Passions run High at the County Register

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Passions run High at the County Register by Tracey Cater

If you have any reservations about dating, Tracey will put you mind to rest as she talks about her confidential and proven approach as a dating Dating Adviser for The County Register, an exclusive introductions agency.

‘In my role as a Membership Adviser, I make sure that there is total transparency and honesty throughout the process, for new clients joining The County Register. Our clients are professional men and women who expect, and deserve, an elite service.’

Tracey speaks with conviction as she describes her unique approach:

‘Previously, I have carried out roles as both a Matchmaker and Matchmaking Manager. Just like the rest of my fellow employees at The County Register, I am absolutely passionate about the personal introductions we provide for our clients. Those who join us are all looking for a long lasting, loving relationship. Many have been through heartbreak and loss of some sort, so our approach to all of our members is one of sensitivity, compassion and professionalism.

Online dating is usually discussed during an initial consultation, as many people have suffered bad experiences. I make it clear that the service we offer is 100% confidential and also that our clients are all ID checked, using a verification system provided by Lexus Nexus.

My attitude towards my role is to guide a client through the joining process, managing their expectations and making sure they have chosen the membership that best suits their needs. I am one of a very hardworking and honest team of people. We all operate with integrity and emotional involvement. I absolutely love my job and I’m incredibly proud to work for The County Register, alongside an amazing group of individuals.  With our wide experience of personal matchmaking, we understand the uncertainties you may feel. It may be some years since you were dating; other issues, such as a career or family may have taken priority, or you may have reached the stage where you are ready to share your life with someone – you just haven’t met that person yet. An important part of our service is to advise, counsel and listen to your concerns.

I’d love to speak with if you’d like to find out more about dating with The County Register.  Please do call me, for an informal chat on 0800 644 4110 or email:’


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Jemimah Fleet Speaks Surrogacy And The Law At Pinewood Studios

Jemimah Fleet Speaks Surrogacy And The Law At Pinewood Studios

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We met Jemimah Fleet, family lawyer from progressive Buckinghamshire Law Firm BP Collins, on her visit to Pinewood Studios recently.  Jemimah spoke openly about Surrogacy, the niche area of family law she has grown to love, and the positive impact it has on so many lives.

Jemimah talked about the current legal obstacles within the climate on surrogacy law in the UK (described as ‘unwelcoming’ by Sir James Munby, the former President of the Family Division) and how it is very difficult to find a surrogate, or indeed for surrogates to come forward, due to the various restrictions concerning payments and even offering/advertising to be a surrogate. In contrast, in the USA, there is a more progressive attitude towards surrogacy which has meant that many people from the UK are drawn to go overseas.

But she is hopeful that with the proposed reforms that are presently in motion with the law commission, around the complex issues of surrogacy law, that there may well be light at the end of the tunnel.

Overall Jemimah remains positive and passionate:

‘It is a real privilege to work in this area of law’ say Jemimah ‘and I enjoy navigating the legal obstacles for clients, setting out a clear plan of action and supporting them on their surrogacy journeys. 

In relation to the law commission’s current consultation and proposals to reform UK surrogacy law: 

‘I absolutely welcome the proposals for regulation and reform and see it as hugely positive. I have seen an increase in the number of clients who are seeking advice on surrogacy, especially internationally, in recent years.  The lack of uptake of the surrogacy process in the UK is undoubtedly due to the obstacles and uncertain legal framework that intended parents (and surrogates) currently encounter. One important issue is that the surrogate (as the birth mother) is always considered the legal mother and intended parents can only apply to court for a parental order, to be recognised as their child’s legal parents, once the child is born. This inevitably places the child in a legal limbo and vulnerable position until legal matters are resolved, which can take months.

The Law Commission’s consultation will help to reform the law which is outdated and doesn’t meet the interests and needs of those involved in surrogacy journeys. Importantly, the reform aims to ensure that the child’s welfare remains the key focus, but provides a clearer legal framework and reassurance to all those involved.’

As she touched upon aspects of her work that she was permitted to share, she told us that she has encountered some wonderful surrogates and that they usually have one or more children already, and are committed to the surrogacy journey and rarely stray from their decision to help a couple who cannot conceive.  So the obstacles faced were in the law itself.

Jemimah works with single parents, same sex couples, older parents and parents who are unable to conceive naturally for medical reasons, and she feels that in spite of the current legal challenges, it is a privilege to work in a profession that brings joy to so many people.

Contact Jemma on 01753 279045 or email


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We are constantly being told not to look back and to have no regrets, but during a recent life coaching session, I was urged to write a letter to the Universe outlining everything I am grateful for and has enhanced my life so far, and that as a result magical things would happen.

I was reminded of Oprah Winfrey who reportedly suffers from depression and anxiety – but her first call every morning is to give thanks for each and every part of her life and surroundings, including the simple things, and not just the yields of her wealth and fame.

So as I set about putting pen to paper, so many aspects of the past emerged, some I had buried deep in my unconscious but had popped up as a result of a random thought or memory ignited by another – the strongest being the love I had received from family and friends.  I couldn’t see the sense at the time, but trusted my mentor and as I did felt a surge of energy through my body which was quite indescribable.

Gratitude is apparently famous for evoking a high spiritual frequency as is love, and I now believe is a good place to begin, especially as we are about to start a new decade.  It is also brilliant if you want to take the next step in your life, as it will give you a strong mental platform to take a leap of faith into the future.

So where is this all leading, I was urged to seek life coaching when I had reached a crossroads as to where to put my energies, and as I had a plethora of skills all crying out to be commissioned.  But my revered coach quickly identified where I would create most value.

It was a surprise because I felt she would opt for the most practical of options and the ones that seemingly would make the most money, but instead she urged me to follow my heart and my passion, as then she insisted, I would be fulfilled and only then could I create value on all fronts.  She was right in her analysis.

It was a treasured lesson, and one that I have been putting in place for the past few months.  I have been lucky to meet someone with whom my life has resonated in terms of mentoring, and felt compelled to write about the experience to give you the opportunity to explore your own inner journey which will in turn change your life and perhaps put it back on course.

Choosing a life coach is a very personal experience, and one that only you can decide is right for you.  I can help by making suggestions but it is ultimately your call, and one that I hope will be as life changing for you as it was for me.

A couple of suggestions I can make initially are Lynne Franks, who operates from her own holistic healing centre in Somerset The Hub at No 3, where I spent a blissful three days being mentored and nurtured by Lynne and her highly practised professionals in the art of holistic healing.

This I would heartily recommend to start the new year and the new decade.  You can explore all of Lynne’s courses, and do not be afraid of group sessions as they are gentle and nurturing, but you could also book her for a one on one coaching which is transformational.

If you would like to venture further afield, you could try one of Jason Chan’s healing centres in Thailand.  Jason is famous for releasing stubborn spiritual blockages, and I highly recommend him to change deeply embedded karmic energies. Jason also visits many countries where you can visit him including the UK.

Happy 2020 everybody, and huge thanks for being part of our spiritual journey and for all of the love you have shown us.   Let’s make 2020 and beyond a decade to remember for the good in every way possible!

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‘How much is that doggie in the Window, the one with the waggly tail’ goes the old song, which is rarely played these days. In fact you will never see a doggie in any shop window in the UK nowadays, as we have thankfully tightened up the rules where window shopping and impulse buying of such a precious animal is concerned.

If you are preparing to buy or rescue a dog for the family for Christmas, how prepared are you? Have you thought it through, as it is a bit like making the changes to your home and lifestyle of having a new baby.

Firstly, depending on the size and breed of the dog, it is advisable to buy loose covers or throws for all of the furniture as you will want to wash them frequently if you are allowing the animal to sleep on the settee or even the bed. If not, then invest in a dog basket or sheep skin for the pet to sleep on.

If you are at work all day then you should think through how often your new pet needs to be taken for a walk, and it is possible to train dogs to stay in a crate for several hours, but this is not advisable until they know you will be coming back.   So arduous work with leaving them from ten minutes at a time over a week or so and then building up to the time you will be out of the house, which should not be more than two or three hours at a time. So it may be wise for you to employ a doggie walker who will come to your house a couple of times a day. This does not come cheap, anything from £7 to £10 a walk for an experienced person who you can trust.

There are also some excellent doggie day care centres now, and will almost certainly be one in your area where you can take your dog when out for long hours. Again these range between £10 and £20 per day, costing more for an overnight stay.

Owning a dog does not come cheap, with their vaccinations, food, day care, deworming and flea treatments it can add up to a hefty £3-£7k per year. Look around for the best health insurance and veterinary surgery. But take out full cover because vets are expensive and you will still need to pay to get your dog neutered and vaccinated.

It is still advisable to go into the animal’s background if you have kids to make sure he or she is safe to have in the home, but the good news is, they are the most therapeutic animals in the World, and have been known to be a healing companion to the elderly or a younger person with a disability.

You should decide the breed of dog you want or if you would like to acquire a dog from your local rescue home. Size is quite irrelevant in the grand scheme of things in terms of care, as all dogs need walking and attention and the same rules apply. Smaller dogs are just easier to carry around, but there are the same restrictions in most restaurants, supermarkets or retail outlets so check out your local dog friendly ones.

Going on holiday is another thing to consider, and you may decide to go to a log cabin in the country where they have fabulous walks or dog friendly hotels or even abroad – and then you will need a doggie passport.

If you are going further afield check out your best kennel, as some are better than others, and most will give you a guided tour, and you can decide for yourself. If you choose one where they receive one to one attention, they will also have a brilliant holiday and some love it so much they won’t want to come home at first. So don’t fret about leaving them in kennels for a couple of weeks if you go away.


If after all of this information you still have your heart set on a dog, then you are embarking on a wonderful adventure, and one that will change your life for the better.   But take heed, as they have been known to steal the hardiest of hearts, and they are also famous for never returning it to the owner.

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Super Able Mind – The Neuroscience of Happiness and Wellbeing

Super Able Mind – The Neuroscience of Happiness and Wellbeing

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We recently met the inspirational Anastasia Hatzivasilou who has mentored both World famous celebrities and people who have been recommended ‘word of mouth’ to experience her enigmatic healing powers and systematic solutions, and felt we should in turn introduce Anastasia to you. Anastasia has the rare ability to be both sensitive, charismatic and powerful, with full conviction in her life work, to heal people’s lives. Perhaps the timing is right for you to make a change.

“The design of the human brain is more like a cosmos than an island. An individual neurone can achieve absolutely nothing alone. When that individual neurone works in concert with other neurones, putting humans on the moon becomes possible.

For better or worse we learn through our interaction with other humans. When we learn to communicate in the language of humanism we create high quality, stable neural connections that allow our brains to flourish. We put ourselves on the moon in our own small way.

The difference that this can make to our lives and the lives of those around us is enormous. Humanism allows us to maintain a deep sense of inner calm in the face of some of life’s great challenges. Good judgement and rational behaviour come from a calm mind, so I consider the pursuit of a calm mind fantastically worthwhile. Neil Armstrong’s slow, calm pulse was legendary within NASA. Without it he would never have been selected to be the very first man on the moon. “ – Anastasia Hatzivasilou.

S.A.M ~ SuperAbleMind ~ was created in November 2013 on the back of three decades of study and research into various areas of mind and brain development; Psychology, Anthropology, Zen, Buddhism, Sufism, Mindfulness, Quantum Science, Neuropsychology, Neurobiology, Neuroplasticity, Neurogenesis and Epigenetics.

It is supported by five years of clinical practice with clients of all ages and backgrounds, with people who had the desire to self-improve. Whilst not an exhaustive list, the primary human conditions embraced by the practice include- stress, depression, anxiety, ADD, ADHD, anorexia, bulimia, self-harm, addiction, academic performance, low self-esteem, neurological pathologies and infertility stress.

You may ask; how can one method- one approach-address so many human conditions?

Neuroplasticity references the ability of the brain to learn and un-learn; to change and to adapt to accommodate the environment. ‘Neuro’ references our brain cells and the ‘plasticity’ part refers to the ability that our brain cells-our learning cells- have to be flexible and adaptive to our changing circumstances. This could represent a divorce or loss, or a human condition like depression or anxiety that we learn and ‘become’ in response to something in the environment. In fact, we may say that anxiety or stress is a coping mechanism or pattern of the brain that is learned in response to an environmental condition. What we focus upon most of the time we ‘learn, reinforce and become’. It tells us that something is not working well and gives us both que and clue that something needs changing or learning.

Back in 2013, Anastasia was looking to develop a way to train the mind and brain in such a way that stimulated involuntary and automatic, non-reactive thoughts and behaviours which would put the brain in a peak-learning state. Her purpose was to empower life with the ability to tame, temper and regulate emotional states that would improve cognitive and executive functioning to support enhanced creativity and better decision making. She understood that thoughts, the nature of intentions and emotions impacted our performance, impacted the way the brain worked, impacted which part of the brain was online and which part went offline. Anastasia wanted to know whether we triggered the reactionary survival brain or the most evolved part of our brain, the frontal lobes or what she often calls our ‘Baby Genius.’1

Anastasia was also very aware that emotions heavily impacted our biology and immune system, and this often put our health in jeopardy.

The S.A.M method is heavily steeped in the science of Neuroplasticity. It re-wires the brain and mind to seven behaviours, forty-three ideologies and three incantations that empower us to access a more functional, rational and creative level of mind. In essence, we become more ‘able’ learners. Neuroscience affirms it takes 65.6 days to re-wire the brain, to change a behaviour, to learn something new and for that behaviour to become the new normal.2

The method can be taught in the format of a one-to-one twelve lesson course, or in the format of a four to five-hour workshop. The content SuperAbleMind teach is the ‘S.A.M Knowledge’.

They have developed cards to lend tangibility and to help people connect with and remember the key teachings of the course. The cards comprise: 7 red cards, the key behaviours which we call calming postures of the mind; 43 blue cards, the ideologies that they use to support the behavioural principles of the red cards; and lastly 3 lavender cards which they call our Incantations.

S.A.M have also had great success working with young children and teenagers and have developed the Rainbow Knowledge specifically for this age group. The method teaches young people great coping strategies which support the development of emotional intelligence. Once learned, these strategies become skills that will be used for life.

When Anastasia recently conducted two workshops with the NHS, she chose approximately a quarter of the content that would be relevant to the needs of the thirty people who attended the course. These were individuals whose problems were primarily health issues and ‘stress’. The intention was to teach these patients better coping mechanisms to deal with the stress of their circumstances. When presenting to corporate audiences, S.A.M choose content which caters for the needs of the individuals in that working environment. They feel that the productivity of a company will be reflected in the wellness of the parts that make up the whole and in the communicative ability of each individual. When we learn to communicate along the lines of the behaviours and ideas being taught, individuals feel happier, more functional and ‘Super Able’.

The company currently comprises of Anastasia as the CEO and founder of SuperAbleMind, plus several practitioners who she has trained to teach the method. Practitioners undergo a twenty-week training period and on completion of the modules are fully qualified to teach the method. S.A.M is based in Victoria; at 25 Eccleston Yard in Central Working. Whilst they welcome people to our premises, their clients come from all over the world and the method is often taught via conference calls.

S.A.M have worked with clients in Australia, the U.S, Madrid, Switzerland, Germany, Scotland, Saudi and Lebanon. S.A.M has recently spent three months rebranding and so their website has a new look has recently been introduced to the wonderful Anastasia and S.A.M whose work has transformed so many lives, by the King of Introductions,  Mr Richard Selwyn-Barnett at Its Who You Know. This is evident by S.A.M’s testimonials and work ethic, and how effective their treatments have been on so many lives.

1 The Middle Pre-frontal cortex, the most recently evolved part of our brain makes up 20% of our brain. Some of the features that we have the potential to use and develop are body regulation, attuned communication, emotional balance, response flexibility, insight, empathy, fear modulation, intuition and morality. In contrast, the survival brain, which is also called the limbic or emotional or animal brain (because it one of the oldest parts) is also very good at what it does, being easily triggered and highly sensitive. When the survival brain is triggered, our ‘thinker’, our Baby Genius, goes offline.


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