by Dee | Mar 21, 2019 | Featured, GloWellness
Performers are always having the conversation about the fear of first nights, their nerves when singing or dancing for the first time in a show, or the fear of forgetting their lines. Their hearts pounding, mouths hellishly dry and beads of perspiration breaking out on their forehead. Then all is all resolved when they walk on stage, the symptoms miraculously disappearing, allowing them to perform perfectly without a glitch.
In the majority of cases performers are at home on stage or in front of a camera, but what happens if the nerves really do take over, and start wreaking havoc in a performer’s life.
Actor Denise Welch recently admitted to an overwhelming bout of anxiety whilst on tour, and explained how she suffered from bouts of depression. This brave lady has told the world how she has been suffering over the years, and how it creeps up on us without warning and sets out to wreak our lives.
Anxiety does not discriminate and can affect any one of us, and I am sure the majority of you will have suffered from this devastating condition at some time in your life. Thankfully it is no longer a stigma or considered a weakness to own up to mental health issues, and it is now being encouraged by public figures, actors and even members of our Royal family, to speak out about it, because when we share problems they are far more easily overcome.
I have suffered personally from acute anxiety and it began at school when I was asked to read in assembly when I was 14. I was incredibly excited as I had begun to be interested in a local amateur dramatic group for under 20s, and this was my opportunity to shine. To my horror, as I began to read my hands started to shake, my voice began to tremble and I had to walk offstage not finishing the piece of prose I had been asked to perform. I felt humiliated and desperate, which was not helped by the words of sympathy from my classmates, which only added to my grief. In those days anxiety and depression were swept under the carpet, and yet I had managed to give a highly visible display of acute anxiety in front of 200 people. I was devastated.
Fortunately, I had a wonderful teacher called Mrs Frears who taught literature and drama, who supported me throughout and encouraged me to get back on the stage and perform. I owe so much to her as she not only helped me turn it round, she also was a big part of why I went to performing arts school and worked in theatre and television.
The best advice that was ever given to me when I was tackling the ongoing problem of acute anxiety was from a brilliant psychotherapist who told me to embrace the anxiety, and not try to push it away. He said that I should give it a name as it was a living entity, and respect it and nurture it – I called it Martha.
I now live with the concept of ‘Martha’ and speak to her as a friend when she turns up unexpectedly. She can be high maintenance sometimes, in terms of time, but is well worth it as I can then get to grips with my own agenda and learn to live with my own fears and anxieties. It has certainly worked for me.
I now mentor and train speakers in Presentation and Public Speaking skills and a big part of that is managing anxiety. Why am I such an expert, is it because I have performed on stage for decades as an actor and singer? Of course that is a big part of it. But the most important aspect of my training is my ability to recognise fear of speaking in public because I have suffered badly from anxiety.
The condition is also not just reserved for performers and can infiltrate any area of your life, affecting your social interactions your relationships and even your everyday working life. It has no boundaries and there is no pattern of how or where it can manifest.
I have a friend who seems to have everything, a wonderful husband, beautiful kids, fabulous country house, great circle of friends, successful career – on the surface everything seems to be perfect, and yet she is the most anxious person I know.
There are so many ways of dealing with fear and anxiety, and these can be personal to you. You can begin by reaching out and knowing that you are not completely alone, which is a brilliant way to start.
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by Dee | Mar 13, 2019 | Featured, GloWellness
As I give another major shout out for the “Hub at no3” recently opened by the wonderful Lynne Franks in Somerset, I must to introduce you to Saskia Marjoram, another force of nature, who administers Flower Remedies.
Up until then I only knew about Rescue Remedy – that I took in abundance when under stress or in hiding from mankind.
But after a rather apprehensive start, I was persuaded by Lynne to book a session in Flower Remedy Healing and I was soon won over by Saskia’s utter belief in the power of her flower essences and knowledge of how to administer them.
Saskia arrived with all of her essences in a box, a bit like Mary Poppins, and as she brought them out, they seemed to hold a magic of their own, and as she described, their very own personality.
Saskia evokes your own choice of flowers by a method she has developed over years, and told me that whatever my choice, it will be relevant to my lifestyle.
I chose the flowers relating to fun and enjoyment, both of which I had shied away from in recent months for a variety of reasons, so this did not surprise me. She then made me my very own mixture of the essences I had selected.
It was a joy to be given my very own potion made for me by Saskia in hub@no3 – and I have just finished my first bottle after several weeks.
Did it work, have I had more fun? I don’t really have to stop and think, as when you participate in magic – amazing things happen – and they are all full of fun fun fun.
I would recommend a visit to “hub at no3” if you have a free weekend or few days, but if not Saskia can do Flower Remedy healing on Skype or Facetime.
Saskia has been working with flowers her entire life. As a professional gardener for more than 30 years, and florist to HRH Prince of Wales, she started making flower essences in 2003 with her friend and business partner Christine Felce.
She goes on to say that she is ‘continually fascinated by how plants and humans interact. My deep love, friendship and knowledge of the flowers has continued to grow as I discover just how powerfully their energy affects, and interacts, with us.
Flower essences contain the vibrational energy of the plant they came from, this energy is held as a memory in water. Taking this vibration into yourself reminds your own personal energy how to be, helping unlearn held patterns, bringing awareness to problems (and solutions) and rebalancing your whole being.
My essences are made in the same way as the Bach Flower Remedies and are usually taken as drops under the tongue. They do not smell.
Flower essences work deeply bringing positive and effective change to our lives. They act as catalysts, bringing awareness and shifting patterns so that you can take responsibility for your own healing in a safe, natural and simple way.
https://www.saskiasfloweressences.com/
https://www.hubatno3.com/
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by Dee | Feb 13, 2019 | Featured, GloWellness
With all of the wonderful alternative and holistic therapies I have tried, Reiki had alluded me until last week when at a Retreat in Somerset www.hubatno3.com just opened by Lynne Franks, I decided to try it.
I had booked a massage with the lovely Helen, a resident practitioner, who is also an expert in Reiki and a clairvoyant, and as she described the Universal energy of healing called Reiki, felt compelled to book a session.
Helen had already told me that whilst rendering the treatment, she had flashes of insight into the person, in the form of images or names of people or even glimpses of their future. She asked me if it was something I would be interesting in hearing throughout the session. I was fascinated, and a little sceptical, even though I firmly believe in holistic healing and even clairvoyance, I had arrived with a severe lower back pain which I was sure would not be shifted in one session.
How wrong could I be? Helen was obviously an expert in the field of Reiki, and came up with names she could have not possibly known before.
The practise of Reiki in Japanese is translated as ‘miraculous or divine spirit or intention’ and I could not describe it better. After the session I felt elated if not a little light headed, and Helen told me to drink lots of water, which I did.
The following day my back pain had disappeared.
I couldn’t believe it either – it was miraculous, and Helen had not touched my body at all throughout the Reiki session, just held her hands across the areas she felt needed help, which were the painful areas and my left knee which had also been giving me a bit of discomfort.
Descriptions of Reiki seem to be Universal healing energy administered through healing hands, and even though I had questioned the validity, it had worked.
I have to confess, Helen seemed extremely tuned into me and a great practitioner in the art of healing and Reiki, which was an awesome combination, and so if you can’t get down the The Hub, at least contact an expert in your area and try it.
But for those of you who are believers in Universal energy, it is a good start, and perhaps you can begin by following these simple principles
Just for today do not worry
Just for today do not anger
Honour your parents, teachers and elders
Earn your living honestly
Show gratitude to every living thing
You can find a Reiki practitioner by logging onto www.reikiassociation.net
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