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When home is not where the heart it

Since lockdown measures were introduced to cope with the coronavirus outbreak, there has been a stark rise in domestic abuse, with the National Domestic Abuse helpline reporting an 80% increase in calls in June. Fran Hipperson, family partner at B P Collins, advises on what victims can do to protect themselves and their children.

Domestic abuse isn’t always physical violence. It can also encompass a pattern of controlling, threatening and coercive behaviour. This behaviour can be emotional, economic, psychological or sexual. Perpetrators of domestic abuse often use coercive and controlling behaviour to seek to isolate their victims from friends and family and to remove any support network they have.? Lockdown has made it much easier for them to do this.

If you’re experiencing domestic abuse, there are various orders which can be made to help you, although applications are likely to be dealt with remotely through telephone or Skype hearings rather than at court. For example, it is possible for the court to make an order regulating the use of the family home, such as who can use the kitchen at a particular time.  

The court also has the power to exclude the perpetrator of domestic abuse from the family home entirely (an occupation order) and to grant an injunction to prevent abusive behaviour (a non-molestation order). Breach of a non-molestation order is a criminal offence and as such will act as a deterrent for some.  

Refuges also remain open, and the police will provide support to all those who are being abused – whether physically, emotionally, or otherwise.

If you’d like to speak in confidence to Fran Hipperson about how B P Collins can help, you can email frances.hipperson@bpcollins.co.uk or call 01753 279070.

If you’re experiencing abuse, you can also call the 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline for free on 0808?2000?247 and anyone in danger should call 999.

 If your friend or family member is a victim of domestic abuse, you could provide information on organisations that offer help to victims and their children and explore available options with them. You can also help them to report an assault to the police if they choose to do so and you could go with them

FIFTY SHADES OF GREY – THE BIG COVER UP

FIFTY SHADES OF GREY – THE BIG COVER UP

Grey hair is not always for the elderly. It can strikes when you are least expecting it, even at the tender age of 28 as happened to a friend of mine, who hadn’t a care in the World. So what does it mean to go grey – the ‘grey hair’ fallacy of worry and aging certainly doesn’t always add up.

 

It is a fact that 50 percent of us have grey hair at the age of 50, but it is not the only culprit. Redheads go grey first followed by Caucasians – and vitamin deficiency is a regular cause. Smoking is also a major player, and so a healthy diet and lifestyle is certainly recommended to prevent the early onset of grey hair.

Many of us chose to celebrate the arrival of grey hair and proffer a salt and pepper image. Others strive to eradicate the loss of their original colour and regain it with the many hair products and shades on offer in the High Street or in your local Hair Salon.

Some prolific celebrities are donning the red carpet these days with their shades of grey, and I mean their natural hair. Jamie Lee Curtis, Helen Mirren, Carole King and Glenn Close are just a few of the super famous who have opted to stay grey.

But if you are determined to eliminate, it is a skill in itself to cover the regrowth of grey hair, matching it against your own regular colour roots, and can sometimes need a bit of careful planning in the hairdressing department to achieve a natural look.

Constant Saloon visits can be costly, and so there are some tips to try at home for in between visits, or to replace them.

Grey hair is especially vulnerable to hair dyes – so ammonia-free products are the best formulas.

The new Umberto Beverly Hills U Colour and Revlon ColorSilkHerbatint Permanent Herbal Haircolour Gel is a very good option. When you wash, use a gentle, moisturizing shampoo to help limit fading, go for a product like Aveeno Active Naturals Nourish + Moisturize Shampoo.

L’Oreal EverPure Moisture Leave-in Conditioner is also a good option to preserve the colour. All can be ordered online or in selected hair salons and outlets. You can also do your own research to see what works best for you.

It is all about ongoing maintenance and if you get the products and the shades right, the grey will take care of itself.

 

 

Emily’s Fashion Hack – SCARF SEASON – THE ULTIMATE STYLE TWISTER

Emily’s Fashion Hack – SCARF SEASON – THE ULTIMATE STYLE TWISTER

How wonderful it is to be in the midst of the season for scarves (as if there’s only one season… but we’ll get to that)!

I recently made a major house move, so had to go through my closet to reorganize my clothes. I had a hard time making decisions on what to throw out, as I’m still working on losing those last 15 pounds of baby weight – (eek – baby is actually 18 months old)! As a result, I ended up bagging and boxing some items, and putting them in storage for when I do shed those last couple of inches around my middle.

Having said that, I’ve actually come to terms with my new curves and I’ve purchased a few new wares in my lovely, current, baby hip-holding size, and (luckily) a good portion of my tops fit me once again. Being a designer and a fashion lover, I have actually figured out a way for my new wares to stand up to the wardrobe I had pre-baby.

I’ve never been the person who buys a new wardrobe every year and donates last season’s garbs to charity.   I’m actually someone who shops for items here and there, buying a garment when I fall in love with it, or when I have an occasion and need something new.

I tend to keep my clothes and wear them for years, restyling them as the seasons and the trends change. Some items I have had long enough to see them go out of style and then come back into fashion.

I’m also a huge advocate of layering – probably because I hail from New York, a place with a harsh winter and four full, glorious seasons.

Why toss that glittery, gold tank top from your college clubbing days away when you can layer it under a classy, fuzzy ivory cashmere sweater and get a peek of shimmer at the waist and at the shoulder straps?

But I digress, as this article is supposed to be about scarves, and I am just preparing you for the other topics in my series, so watch this space because there is a lot more to come.

So back to the scarves. As I embark on another autumn/winter with this new limited wardrobe at my disposal, I am faced with the eternal question… how do I liven up my closet without spending a fortune? Luckily for me, I’ve accumulated quite a collection of scarves in my time. Scarves are a true wardrobe workhorse. They’re the ultimate article of clothing that should stay put in your wardrobe.

They do not have to be replaced during pregnancy, and though the chillier months are known to be “scarf season,” they actually have such versatility that you can use them as a lifesaving accessory all year long.

Keep your hair up and out of your face in summer with a light silk scarf. Channel your inner Audrey Hepburn and cover your head in the storms of spring. In colder autumn and winter days, you can wear them in the usual way, around your neck for warmth, but there are endless ways to wear a scarf that can liven up any outfit, any time of year. And you can wear them anywhere you please, as well! Use scarves as a necklace, as a hair band or tie. As a bracelet, a belt, a head cover, a shawl. Tie one around the hips to accentuate a skirt. Even when worn traditionally around your neck, there are countless methods of securing them. Their uses are endless, as are their abilities to transform an outfit. The scarf truly does take a drab, boring look and make it exciting. You can add a pop of color to an otherwise monochromatic look. Bring in a pattern to offset solids, or – if you’re daring enough – mix and match different patterns by adding a wild scarf. Wear a scarf up by donning a fine-fabric one with beaded embellishments, or wear it down by using a well-loved cotton voile paired with jeans.

What I’m trying to say is simply this: Move your scarves to the front of your closet. Mix and match them. Wear them in whatever way strikes your fancy. Expand the options that exist for you without shopping for whole new outfits. Get creative with your wardrobe, and have fun while doing it. I know I will! Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to go dive into a big pile of scarves…

French Knot: my favorite.

This is a classy, beautiful and timeless look that never goes out of style.


1.Take a long scarf and fold it in half lengthwise


2.Drape it around your neck so loop and ends are at your front


3.Take one part of the loose end and put it through the loop, over one side and under the other.


4.Take the other loose end and put it through the loop in the other direction – under the one side and over the other, then adjust to desired tightness and length.

The Belted Scarf: a wonderful way to show off your favorite scarf.

I love it now, in my current post-baby state because some of my tops still fit a little snug, but not enough to retire, so wearing a scarf in this way hides some of those unwanted creases and bulges (no need for that shaper underwear here)!


1.Start with a long light to medium weight scarf that has a fringed edge


2.Drape over shoulders, and adjust length so both edges are even


3.Take a belt and secure at the natural waistline


4.Tug scarf to tighten beneath the belt

The V-Neck Front Knot: if a cowgirl went to Paris this is what she’d come away with.
A chic and fun way to wear a scarf that also keeps you warm.


1. Take a medium to large square silk scarf and fold in half diagonally, to form a triangle


2. Wrap it around your neck with the fold at your chin and the tip of the triangle pointing down


3. Take the other two corners around your neck and bring back around to your front


4. Tie the two corners in a double knot slightly to one side, then fluff for desired fullness

The Infinity Necklace: a flirty, fun and oh-so-easy look.
This may be the scarf combination I get the most compliments on. Simple, different and playful.


1. Take a medium to long rectangle scarf and tie the ends together


2. Put it over your head with the knot at the back of your neck


3. Loop the scarf around your neck again


4. Leaving the knot at the back of your neck, adjust one part to be tight, like a choker (but not too tight!) and the other part loose, like a long necklace

Stay tuned for more of Emily’s Fashion Hacks on GloTIME.tv

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