Hair is definitely one of the most defining parts of us, and so it is important to keep it in good shape, both texturally and structurally. In these muggy days of Summer and with added colourants, it may seem a little dry. The stresses of everyday life can also play a big part in the condition of our hair, and so now is the time to take action.
One of the most ancient traditions in keep hair shiny, thick and healthy is the application of oils, and in some cultures that tradition has endured and is key to the condition and appearance of their incredible hair.
In a recent interview with some ladies who are either working mums or semi-retired, their reluctance was that it was too time consuming as you would have to wait until the oil soaked into the hair and then was it out several times to make sure it had gone. But in reality, it is far less time than a visit to the hairdresser.
How would it be to work it into your weekly beauty routine, either at weekends or chose an evening when you can take the luxury of time, perhaps whilst watching a film, and massage it into the scalp and gently into the hair itself. You then wrap a warm towel around your head and wash off after a couple of hours. Imagine the end result, which is sleek shiny tresses you have envied on others over the years. It can also help to thicken your hair and produce a healthy regrowth.
Fame was once bestowed only upon the revered members of the Nation like Kings or Queens, successful Scientists and gifted writers or performers. People who had actually achieved something, or of course who were born into Royalty.
In recent years though we have seen a rise in reality TV, from Celebrity Get Me Out of Here to Any Way is Essex, pulp viewing but hugely popular nonetheless, and producing huge reality ‘stars’ who endorse products, open high profile events and even switch on the Christmas lights due to their popularity.
X Factor and The Voice has also lead to huge exposure for thousands of budding singers and performers, who even if they win are not guaranteed a career, but certainly achieve their 15 minutes of fame that everyone seems to be seeking.
So what happens when you achieve that fame or notoriety? Does that mean your problems are solved and you live happily ever after?
Well let’s take a look at that belief a little more closely. The best way to start is to take a look at movie stars like Marilyn Monroe and Robin Williams who both took their lives as their fame was just not enough to block out the pain of their suffering.
Princess Diana was another good example of being the most famous and revered woman on the Planet but was one of the unhappiest as she couldn’t live with her own demons and the fact that her husband actually did not love her.
When speaking with a well know analyst recently whose patients are mainly the rich and famous, she told me that the majority of her clients can’t cope with the fact that fame does not ease the pain.
She couldn’t share her confidentiality, but told me that anxiety and depression with several of her well known clients had actually increased as a result of them becoming famous.
I am not talking to you from a great height. In fact, I too have known many struggling actors and performers and been one myself, with huge talent but have never ‘made it’, whatever that means. It does seem unfair that ‘fame’ is sometimes just the ‘click of the switch’ that happens to random people for no particular reason, whereas true talent is often ignored and left behind.
So what is the solution if the stars are aligned and we are transported in the World of celebrity and fame without even trying. It has happened to a small section of the Nation and is well deserved if as a result of a special achievement or accolade. This seems to have a more favourable outcome with people like Marie Curie who discovered a ground breaking cure for cancer.
But what about the wannabes who just want to get into Love Island without very much substance to back it up? Take a look at the majority of the contestants of these types of shows, who have already disappeared into insignificance or one or two that have taken their own lives.
What value is fame, and how does it serve us. Only you can answer that, but it is food for thought, and I would love to hear your own take on fame as I am still searching for the answer, not for fame itself but why it is so important to so many people.
As we come into our ‘prime’ we often have a bit more determination to fulfil our dreams, whether it be to visit that far off destination, run naked through the woods or learn a musical instrument. Well, I am talking about the latter, and how fulfilling would it be to pick up a guitar and start strumming at a party or even among close family and friends. How many times have you been mesmerised by the funky guy or girl who is able to do that, and has the talent and ability to write their own lyrics and their own songs.
More and more people are fulfilling their dreams, and even if you are not going to be the next winner of Britain’s Got Talent or the X Factor, (and stranger things have happened), it is guaranteed to be one of the most therapeutic things you could possibly do.
I can talk from experience, as I have recently achieved a life long ambition to learn guitar, after having found a teacher locally, a young funky guy himself, who resides on the outskirts of Beaconsfield. He is a musician through and through, with waist long silky hair and an equally smooth voice, but with a sympathetic ear for my early stumbles on my favourite musical instrument, and after the first couple of months I am learning fast, and have just written my first song, which I am going to try out at my next social gathering.
It also came up as a result of a life coaching experience that I should give this as a present to myself after a lifetime of bringing up a family, caring for an ailing Mum and being a very committed wife and Mother. But you don’t have to wait until the kids have flown the nest, this should be a gift as a recognition of your own self worth and courage as it takes that to even start to explore the options of living your dream or at least one of them.
It sounds crazy now, but my main fear was knowing how to tune the instrument – but with iphones and apps, this is the most simple aspect of learning to play. So if your fear is holding you back from achieving one of your life goals, whatever that is, look at ways to overcome the obstacles and move forward.
My other reservation was that I am always ultra busy, as I run a demanding business, and wouldn’t have the time. Another simple solution, I now get up half an hour earlier in the mornings and put aside that time to practise, and mission accomplished.
Hopefully this will have inspired you to weigh up the options of ticking off something on your bucket list whatever that may be, even if it takes a few months of procrastination, after all how bad can it be? You may say, ‘well I have waited this long’, but my advice would be ‘there is no time like the present’ – and the present is definitely yours for the taking.
Check out this easy beginner guitar lesson and give it a try