BEWARE OF THE BULLY – WATCH OUT FOR THE ENEMY WITHIN

BEWARE OF THE BULLY – WATCH OUT FOR THE ENEMY WITHIN

How many times recently have you heard the words ‘don’t beat yourself up’ or ‘don’t put yourself down’.  I can bet it has been said to you a number of times in recent years.  I know I am guilty of doing both, and it is now time to stand up to the ‘inner bully’ and show it who is boss.

It is hardly surprising as we are constantly ‘bullied’ by the media, ordering us to look more attractive, younger, thinner, smarter – unrealistic goals when juggling any sort of descent lifestyle.

As a woman of a certain age, I now feel compelled to fight back at this tough tyrant within, and have begun to congratulate myself on bringing up a family – no easy feat, being a great friend and partner, my own skills and talents, and doing a list of my assets.  I don’t mean in monetary terms, but my own attributes, and if you search you will find there are many that you can write down about yourself.

If you have this list by your bed, or in a prominent place where you can read it daily, I guarantee the negative feelings relating to yourself will begin to disappear.

Since I instigated this exercise into my own regime, as advised by a renowned life coach, ‘miracles’ started to happen, I was advised that they would.  I was sceptical at first, but seeing a close friend successfully turn her life around, I was urged to try it, after all what did I have to lose.

So this, along with daily meditation, my life began to turn around for the good.  I can’t explain how things began to improve, but can certainly pinpoint when, and that was the moment I stood up to the inner ‘bully’ and resolved to overturn the negative feelings I had for myself and stop setting myself unrealistic goals.

Small things started to happen at first, like a Yoga class appearing, practically on my doorstep and a part time job opportunity mysteriously coming up that would not eat too much into my time.  I have even been given affordable beauty products and treatments at the local spa, and a multitude of benefits I hadn’t previously been made aware of.

Perhaps it is the Universe rewarding me for taking action against the ‘bully’, or maybe I am now freed up to notice my own good fortune, but I recommend taking charge, as it can only be for the greater good, and certainly in these circumstances, it will be for your own inner strength and future.

So, the rule of thumb is that bullies are actually cowards, and if confronted will always back off.  So if you have done any sort of meditation, now is the time to have a serious talk with your inner ‘bully’ and tell them their voice is no longer effective in your World.

When the pressure is off you can then decide what is best for you, and you will be surprised at how liberating it will be to make your own decisions, based upon what you really need to make you happy.

If you would like more information on the above subject or any sort of holistic help, please contact us at Glotime.tv, where we can recommend related reading and life coach options.

Also check out the following for inspiration

https://www.amazon.co.uk/365-Days-Self-Care-Jayne-Hardy/dp/1409183432
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Secret-Rhonda-Byrne/dp/1847370292/
https://lynnefranks.com/

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Cheesy Pin Wheels – with Love or Hate Twist

Cheesy Pin Wheels – with Love or Hate Twist

We have had a big response to our recipe for Cottage Pie with a twist of Marmite https://www.glotime.tv/hearty-cottage-pie-twist-love-hate/ and we were asked if we had anymore Marmite enriched recipes to try. Well here we go with a very quick and simple recipe for Marmite Cheesy Pin Wheels, They can be prepared really quickly for last minute guests or as a treat to be shared with a glass of wine or prosseco. They are also easy for the kids to make for party snacks or picnics.

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Ingredients

Packet Ready Made Rolled Puff Pastry

Marmite

Grated Mature Cheddar Cheese

1 egg whisked for glazing

 

Instructions

Preheat oven to 180°C

Un-roll pastry. Spread Marmite evenly over pastry. Tip: Heat the marmite in the microwave to make it easier to spread but work quickly as it cools fast.

Sprinkle the cheese evenly over the Marmite leave a small gap at the far end to seal.

Roll up from the long side tightly, sealing the end with a dab of water. Cut into 1cm slices.

Form into wheels and lay on a lightly greased baking sheet Brush with egg mix and bake for about 20 minutes until puffed and golden. Serve hot or cold.

 

Variations

Try a Pizza version by spreading Tomato paste onto the pastry, sprinkle dried Oregano onto the paste, Top with grated Cheese, and roll into wheels as above.

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SELF DOUBT AND ANXIETY – THE POWER OF PROJECTION

SELF DOUBT AND ANXIETY – THE POWER OF PROJECTION

It may seem these two disparate concepts are hardly related, but they often go hand in hand.

Many of us are labelled at birth by our parents, as the ‘clever’ one or the ‘creative’ one or even the ‘hopeless’ child, which is merely based on how they want us to live their lives.

I had a phone call last year from a close friend, distraught after her elderly Mother had thrown out some of her favourite clothes and childhood possessions.  Marianne had recently moved back in to look after her since her Mother’s physical and mental health had deteriorated, but had taken a short break away from the daily grind of being a constant carer.

On her return she had found her wardrobe and chest of drawers invaded, with half of the contents given away to charity.  My friend who already suffers from anxiety and self-doubt, was thrown into a major frenzy – and it took her several days to return to any sort of normality, blaming herself for abandoning her Mother.

This was however, the turning point for Marianne, who realised after several months of counselling that it was in fact her Mother’s way of getting Marianne to carry the rage and anxiety she had been feeling herself prior to her outburst.

Added to this Marianne had always been told that out of all of her siblings, she was the one who was the major disappointment, and would never make anything of her life.  On the contrary, she has been a high achiever, even more so than her two sisters, but who constantly seeks her Mother’s approval, which is never recognised in spite of her major accolades in her successful career in the City.

How many times do you hear in a marriage or relationship breakup, that the man or woman has to leave because his partner is ‘crazy’.    This always sits uncomfortably with me, because you can bet that they will go on to meet someone else and evoke the same pattern of behaviour in their new relationship.

Therapists and psycho analysts call this ‘projection’ as they are in fact again getting their partners to carry their anxiety or feelings of hopelessness so that they don’t have to.

If this is hard to digest, let me give you a very simple example of how it works and how toxic this type of ‘projection’ can be.  A close friend who is also an exceptional therapist had a new client several years ago who was suffering from depression, so badly that he wanted to end his life.  My therapist friend David spent the entire session baffled by his account of what had happened since his wife’s departure, and at the end of the session told her he felt he was carrying his partner’s feelings of desperation.   He left feeling a lot happier.

Two hours later his estranged wife called him saying she was feeling suicidal and wanted to give the relationship another go!  He thankfully declined, and as far as I know, has remained anxiety free ever since.

I hope this may be helpful to those of you who are suffering with anxiety and depression, because if you look closely, you may find some of it may not even be yours to carry.

If you or anyone you know are struggling please check out the following websites for
help or just for someone to talk to

https://www.nhs.uk
https://www.mind.org.uk
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
https://www.samaritans.org/
https://www.rethink.org/

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Savoury Parmigiano-Reggiano and Pancetta Pastry Scrolls

Savoury Parmigiano-Reggiano and Pancetta Pastry Scrolls

This recipe for savoury Parmigiano-Reggiano and pancetta pastry scrolls combines the rich umami flavour of Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese with the smoky taste of cured pancetta and sweetness of sweated onions rounded off with aromatic fresh thyme.

What an utterly delectable pastry that you can grab for breakfast, lunch or snack.

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Ingredients:

For 10-11 pieces (approx. ø7cm)

1 sheet ready-made flaky pastry dough (ca. 25x35cm)

6 heaped tbsp. finely grated Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese

1 egg yolk

8 slices pancetta

1 large onion, thinly sliced

1 tbsp. butter

Several twigs of fresh thyme

Salt, pepper to taste

What you’ll need:

Chopping board

Large kitchen knife

Tablespoon

Frying pan

Spatula

Grater

Clean and dry work surface for preparing the dough

Large, flat baking tray, lined with non-stick baking paper

Two small bowls or other containers, one to store the egg white, the other for keeping the egg yolk

Pastry brush

Method:

  1. Finely slice the onion and the pancetta. Melt a knob of butter in a frying pan and, on low heat, lightly sweat the onion and pancetta pieces until the onion turns opaque in colour. Add a sprinkle of salt and a generous dash of black pepper. Take the pan off the heat and add fresh thyme to it (remove the greens from 3-4 twigs).
  2. Roll out the flaky pastry on a clean, dry work surface. The prepared dough won’t need any further flattening. Evenly distribute the onion and pancetta mixture on the dough and make sure to reach to the edges. Sprinkle 5 tbsp. of Parmigiano-Reggiano on the dough.
  3. Roll up the dough from the shorter side, which will produce approx. 10-11 pieces with a diameter of 7cm when baked. Carefully cut the dough with a large kitchen knife into pieces of 3cm thickness.
  4. Lay out the dough scrolls on a flat baking tray lined with non-stick baking paper. Leave a few centimetres space between each scroll to avoid them sticking together once they expand in the oven. Sprinkle the remaining grated parmesan on the scrolls.
  5. Bake in a pre-heated oven, middle rack at 160°C (fan) or top rack on Gas mark 5 for 20-25 minutes altogether.
  6. Ten minutes into the baking process, glaze the half-baked pastries with egg yolk using a pastry brush.
  7. Remove pastries from the oven once they are golden brown. Serve immediately.

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(Credit to: Castelli/Parmigiano for these beautiful recipes)

http://www.castelli-uk.com

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Nail Polish for Men is “Normal” — Just Like It Used to Be 5,000 Years Ago

Nail Polish for Men is “Normal” — Just Like It Used to Be 5,000 Years Ago

We see more and more men emerging with painted nails, either through choice or the reluctant endurance of their creative offspring.

When Jaden Smith posed for Vogue Korea, the internet went berserk. According to Entertainment Tonight, he looked “stunning shirtless in a skirt with a flower in his hair.”

What made headlines was the skirt — not the blue nail polish on his fingers.

Smith is hardly alone. Plenty of other men have been seen wearing nail polish, including Johnny Depp, Seal, Brad Pitt, Zac Efron, Harry Styles and more.

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But History is actually repeating itself. Men have been wearing nail polish since 3,200 B.C. After an excavation of royal tombs at Ur of the Chaldees in southern Babylonia, it was discovered that most men during that time wore nail polish, with different colours signifying different classes. Made primarily with kohl, the darker the colour, the higher the class of the man, from warriors to leaders. Lighter colours were reserved for the lower class men. Prior to battle, the warriors would take hours to paint their nails,so really, it’s not a new thing at all. In fact, nail polish for guys used to be the norm.

Come forward to artists such as Iggy Pop, Kurt Cobain, Lou Reed and David Bowie, all of whom painted their nails.

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All the men above were rock stars, rebelling against the gender norms their elders obeyed. In Bowie’s case, critics just didn’t know what to do with his androgynous look, since rockers of the past had been forced into being extremely hyper-masculine figures.

But something has shifted in the past few years, not only by stars like Jaden Smith, but also the emergence of nail polish brands catering toward men.

There are several companies specifically producing these nail polishes just for men, an internet search will bring up a few makes, in reality they are no different to normal nail polish, they just stick to earthy and darker shades.

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Though there is no reason not to go for a more bolder shade like Harry Styles of One Direction seen here with red polish on some nails.

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Our very own resident chef Adam put it to the test for us, His daughters painted his nails, in black, and they went to town shopping. “At first I was very apprehensive” said Adam, “but after being in a few shops and paying for goods, knowing full well that my painted nails were in full view I suddenly became more and more confident, no one batted an eye lid, it certainly seems it is now acceptable for guys to wear nail polish”

Creator of Thunderbirds, Sylvia Anderson was always pushing the boundaries on fashion in all the shows she created & produced, even some of male characters on Thunderbirds wore eye shadow.

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But that was Sylvia, given her fashion background, always trying to push just a little bit more and it certainly contributed to what made all the shows a success.

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We will leave the last words to Adam. “I may try this again, and will report back. However I will stick to darker colours as don’t think a bright pink will go down well at the pub on a Friday night with the lads, but if pink is good enough for Prince Harry then you never know!”


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