by Olivia | Dec 22, 2017 | Featured, GloWellness
Self-belief has nothing to do with looks, ability or talent, it is something that is inherent in certain individuals, perhaps through confident parenting, a good mentor or teacher – or a strength that has been acquired through sheer determination.
Years ago I spoke to the famous Actor and Comedian Mel Smith who would be the first to admit was not known for his good looks. But in spite of his irregular appearance, Mel was extremely charismatic and self-assured, and put this down to a Head Teacher at his school in Chiswick, where he was given huge support and instilled with confidence – which set him up in his adult life.
The opposite can also occur, as in the case of a stunning female friend who is riddled with self-doubt because of her jealous Mother who undermined her at every turn, and was filled with distain and rage if she became her own person and acted independently. Consequently, she now suffers from acute anxiety and lack of belief in her abilities.
Insecure people are not good to be around, and can destroy a relationship, through their own inability to see the positive in others – being blinded by jealousy, envy or fear.
A recent meeting of minds was almost destroyed by one negative member of the team, who could only criticise and yet not come up with any helpful solutions, which could have created an impotent element of self-doubt. But due to the tenacity of the individuals, they identified the motive and removed the source, banishing the culprit from any future meetings.
I recently met a man who had separated from his wife after 20 years of marriage. He had endured mental cruelty for decades, as he had been subjected to years of negativity and criticism of all that he had achieved. He explained that when he met his wife, he had a thriving business, happy clients, and a wonderful circle of friends.
One by one all of this disappeared as she chipped away at his self-confidence, until he was almost bankrupt and socially isolated. It was only after a long illness that he decided he had enough, and is now rebuilding his life and re-connecting with his friends.
He is sad as he realised that his wife was desperately insecure, and criticised him to prevent her own deep insecurity ruining her life. She has of course had to take that back, and is now struggling to keep her head above water.
Negative people are dangerous – and if we recognise that we are home and dry. Remember THE SECRET which states that we are masters of our destiny and our own minds, and if we believe in ourselves we are on the way to victory. If we hang out with people who only see the negative, then we are on a self-destructive path ourselves.
Remember the Rudyard Kipling poem IF – my darling grandmother used to quote it time and time again, and I have to admit I used to yawn every time she did. But now I read it and think how clever Mr Kipling was to write this, years before any self-help books were published. The language may be old, but the sentiment is as current today as it was then, and it really says it all.
‘If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you’
Bottom line is, believe in yourself and you will find others follow suit. So let’s try it and see – and bit by bit you will notice a difference.
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by Glotime | Dec 22, 2017 | Glo Arts & Entertainment
Aaron Sorkin is an award winning writer of global repute – emerging onto the scene in 1992 with the stage version of A Few Good Men which was nominated for a Golden Globe. Since then he has written The American President (1995) and Malice (1993), as well as cooperating on Enemy of the State (1998), The Rock (1996) and Excess Baggage (1997). He was also invited by Steven Spielberg to “polish” the script of Schindler’s List (1993). Sorkin’s TV credits include the Golden Globe-nominated The West Wing (1999) and Sports Night(1998).
After making his recent debut as a Film Director with Molly’s Game, Sorkin can now be trusted to speak with conviction on all aspects of the Industry and Politics. When asked about Trump for instance, he doesn’t hold back, and describes the President as visibly psychotic and dangerous.
Sorkin read the Book, Molly’s Game which he described as ‘A wild ride’, but was ultimately convinced to become involved in its development after he met the Author, Molly Bloom who writes about her own experiences of going from near Olympic ski-ing champion to the misogynistic World of Hollywood where she succeeded to aspire to the heights of the Hollywood Elite.
It was not an easy ride for Molly, who was faced with huge barriers from her male counterparts and endless prejudice from the opposite sex. She was subjected to an FBI investigation for her underground Poker empire with celebrities, athletes, and the Russian mob.
Bloom ultimately broke all the boundaries and succeeded against the odds, in spite of the obstacles she endured.
Sorkin describes both Molly Bloom the author and Molly’s Game the Book as ‘inspirational’ and ‘full of integrity’. He describes how he felt compelled to be part of its journey onto the big screen as soon as he met Molly Bloom, and how he knew it was a story that had to be told.
Critics are already full of praise for Sorkin’s directorial debut, and are calling it a ‘masterpiece’ and an ‘iconic work of art’.
Molly is played in the film by Jessica Chastain, who Sorkin describes as a wonderfully outspoken Actor, whom he completely supports, and who he says is ‘on the side of the angels’.
Sorkin describes the film as uncannily timely, with the recent contentions that have rocked the Industry.
On the subject of the allegations coming out of Hollywood, Sorkin feels strongly that all of the victims need to be heard, but that the accused should be taken seriously too and describes it as a ‘biblical flood’ with the Dam that has recently burst.
He quotes Jane Fonda who says that men have to stand up for women in Hollywood and the rest of the World. Sorkin agrees, but says that in order to do that, men who care must be allowed into the fight, and that those men and women are ultimately on the same team.
He urges us women to listen and trust in our male allies, after all we need to recruit soldiers – and why be gender specific when we have warriors already waiting in the wings.
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by Olivia | Dec 12, 2017 | Featured, General
Such is the dilemma of any woman at the top of their profession or leading an empire. Whereas male leaders are encouraged to be ruthless, and patted on the back for their leadership qualities, a female in the same position will be deemed callous and unscrupulous if she makes any harsh moves at all in the favour of her Dynasty.
Theresa May is a prime example. She has acquired the role of Prime Minister of the UK almost by default, and endeavoured to take the helm of the UK with very little support from her back benchers or indeed the Public who were constantly berating her way before she stepped into the Arena. Love her or hate her she has managed to make inroads into pulling off one of the toughest deals of the 21st Century, Brexit, and even though she mishandled the general election, she put her hands up and admitted that she had taken the wrong advice and generally screwed up.
To hear men describe her has been quite entertaining, in that because she has just had her 60th birthday and doesn’t pay great attention to her appearance (apart from her kitten heels), she has been described by one corporate gentleman as ‘poor old Theresa May’ with an emphasis on the Old. Another gentleman aired concern about her Diabetes, which he felt could put her at risk with such a stressful leadership role, and another saying how lack lustre she appeared.
The latter seems reminiscent of the 71 year old President Trump who told the World he felt Hilary Clinton was lacking in ‘energy’ because of her age, and yet praised the agile 64 year old French First Lady for being ‘in good shape’.
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It has been the same throughout history with legends like Cleopatra – recognised first for her beauty, but then for her wit and intelligence. She has also been labelled as unscrupulous in her treatment of Mark Anthony who was her lover and the famous liaison with Julius Caesar. If the boot were on the other foot, it is doubtful that there would have been a mention of a wrong doing.
“For she was a woman of surpassing beauty, and at that time, when she was in the prime of her youth, she was most striking; she also possessed a most charming voice and knowledge of how to make herself agreeable to everyone. Being brilliant to look upon and to listen to, with the power to subjugate everyone, even a love-sated man already past his prime, she thought that it would be in keeping with her role to meet Caesar, and she reposed in her beauty all her claims to the throne.”
These accounts influenced later cultural depictions of Cleopatra, which typically present her using her charms to influence the most powerful men in the Western world.
Cleopatra was also renowned for her intellect. Plutarch writes that she could speak at least nine languages and rarely had need of an interpreter.
So where does that leave us ladies, who are forever being challenged on our ambition or attire (remember the fracas about the high heels at work!). My advice is to ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’. After all, we are aware of the issues and prejudices of certain members of the opposite sex , and hopefully the attitudes of our male counterparts can be easily brushed off once we are resolutely on the way to crashing through that glass ceiling.
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